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I might have been naïve to think, as a teenager, that humanity generally was on a path to becoming more tolerant of human difference and fallibility, and to allowing more space for people to be openly who they are, with all their particular brokenness. I also liked this author's description of the way that people are constantly and often mistakenly believing that things are now the way they were in the past. He is coordinator for the New York City chapter of Contemplative Outreach, helping promote centering prayer, which has been his contemplative practice for nearly 20 years.
He shows us how stress comes notfrom the environment, but from the self-built jail of the mind. Honest people speak simply, using language more to describe than to evaluate. My practice of openness also included avoiding false modesty and, eventually, not withholding praise or compliments if you feel inspired to give them. I would counter that I am a man with the emotional intelligence and discipline to make the uncomfortable, and courageous, choice that serves my objective rather than my ego.
Why I’m not radically honest anymore - Who you are is merely who you are now, memory included.
The first edition of Radical Honesty became a nationwide best seller in 1995 because it was not a kinder, gentler self-help book. Brad Blanton, a psychotherapist and expert on stress management, explored the myths, superstitions and lies by which we all live. And this newly revised edition is even worse. Blanton shows us how stress comes not fr The first edition of Radical Honesty became a nationwide best seller in 1995 because it was not a kinder, gentler radical honesty book. Brad Blanton, a psychotherapist and expert on stress management, explored radical honesty myths, superstitions and lies by which we all live. And this newly revised edition is even worse. Blanton shows us how stress comes not from the environment, but from the self-built jail of the mind. Radical honesty keeps us in our self-built jails is lying. The way out is to get good at telling the truth, and Dr. Blanton provides the tools we can use to escape from that jail of the mind. This book is the cake with the file in it. Blanton coaches us on how to have lives radical honesty work, how to have relationships that are alive and passionate, and how to create intimacy where none exists. As we have been taught by the philosophical and spiritual sources of our culture for thousands of years, from Plato to Nietzsche, from the Bible to Emerson, the truth shall set you free. Great read, which actually presents the premises of Eastern thought in down to earth terms most people can understand, to wit: Most thought is a form of disease. For those who read into this a license to go around insulting people for fun, I think they've missed an important part of the point. By stating the truth about your mostly childish feelings and demands on the world you get to hear yourself being putrid and you will come radical honesty your high horse. If you just say the mean things yet keep secret Great read, which actually presents the premises of Eastern thought in down to earth terms most people radical honesty understand, to wit: Most thought is a form of disease. For those who read into this a license to go around insulting people for fun, I think they've missed an important part of the point. By stating the truth about your mostly childish feelings and demands on the world you get to hear yourself being putrid and you will come off your high horse. If you just say the mean things yet keep secret the adolescent assumptions behind that feeling, you're only doing half the job, and being dishonest. There is no objective truth, only subjective truth. If you state the subjective truth of your feelings, including a hard look at your assumptions, it is not only honest but essential to growing up and being free. It also has New Age-y sub-themes that will put off some, but that's another matter. The book's radical honesty point is sound -- honesty is the best policy. It is a shock program most properly applied to people who are consciously or unconsciously living out self-destructive sc This book is brash, confident, strong, results-oriented, opinionated, simple, and straightforward radical honesty the point of over-simplifying. It also has New Age-y sub-themes that will put off some, but that's another matter. The book's basic point is sound -- honesty is the best policy. It is a shock program most properly applied to people who are consciously or unconsciously living out self-destructive scripts radical honesty they internalized from somewhere radical honesty another, for people who are being deeply, fundamentally dishonest with themselves and with others. It is for people who could use a real shaking up, to break free from the false security and real stress of a false persona. That's fine as far as it goes. However, if you were to apply the principles of radical honesty indiscriminately in your daily life, you would be a jerk, basically, and you wouldn't be able to get anything done in society. It's best considered for bringing health to broken intimate relationships among adults. It's for emergency use, like approaching the task of redecorating by burning your house down and starting over. That said, personally I found the author's brash style to be refreshing and likeable. As always, the reader should just extract the personally valuable stuff out of his collection of techniques and his overall message, and simply ignore the rest. His premise is very scary: tell the truth as you experience it, no matter how it reflects radical honesty your identity. Use language to its natural limits to describe what you feel as you feel it, even if you fear it is childish or illogical. I like the idea that our feelings often don't make any sense at radical honesty. We might feel them to be ugly, selfish, wicked. There's a part where he outlines all the secrets he is ashamed of. It was one of my favourite parts, and I started laughing because of how f His premise is very scary: tell the truth as you experience it, no matter how it reflects on your identity. Use language to its natural limits to describe what you feel as you feel it, even if you fear it is childish or illogical. I like the idea that our feelings often don't make any sense radical honesty all. We might feel them to be ugly, selfish, wicked. There's radical honesty part where he outlines all the secrets he is ashamed of. It was one of my favourite parts, and I started laughing because of how funny and truthful his admissions were. I imagine the first time he wrote them down on paper he might have been afraid, even though to me they were charmingly self-involved radical honesty innocent, like my own secrets. I wrote mine down too, and it hurt to do so. Some of the things I came up with sounded hideous and twisted, like they'd been decaying in the dark for too long. Things I know to be true, but never consciously acknowledge. I will learn to be totally and radically honest, I will become a liberated sexual being, I will read lots of books and become very intelligent, I will travel the world and learn new things and tell people they are perfect. I will perfect one day if I do all of these things, and no bad feelings will ever be able to touch me again. I believe that even in telling this to myself I am becoming more of a liberated being, someone special. I never want to miss people or feel like I need others, so this is how I am trying to escape those feelings of needing to be validated externally. The act of writing these down as he had brought up much fear and self-hatred. It may feel like one is dying to admit that some of who you are is performative. It is a way of navigating the world because you think it will keep you safe. It goes back very far. From a young age we learn that love, in some families, is a limited commodity. There is a right and a wrong way of being. If one can appear to be following the rules, you can access the benefits and resources you desire. It feels as though you are using people - it's radical honesty a good feeling. For Blanton, truth-telling is a means of radical honesty yourself. What is left behind is a simple sweetness. Radical honesty think this is the part that people feel is too New Agey. It resonated with me though. It is the place where you are only watching, feeling, experiencing. Then we come along with our little post-it notes about what it all means. I feel that quality - which I am finding impossible to relate in words - when I am in deep sleep, listening to a very beautiful song, sleeping in the park and getting goosebumps from the wind, kissing, being intimate, singing, painting. The last two I no longer feel that way about - I feel too jumbled up and critical to enjoy creativity without evaluating the worth of what I am radical honesty which, of course, makes creativity impossible. I like the chapter on wellness and taking care of yourself. I like this idea so much that I would like to study it anthropologically. I think the cultural ideas we have about what it means to lead a good life in the West are just totally fucked up. Radical honesty about morality, responsibility, being selfless and kind, blah blah blah. This book makes a case for forgoing moralism completely. Judgements, evaluations, all of it. According to Blanton, taking arbitrary meaning-making seriously is an example of your mind controlling your being, rather than simply being and using your mind as a tool to make being easier. It's something you knew when you were a kid, and then at some radical honesty your identity became so critical, that losing it feels like suicide. He makes some pretty contentious statements about how deep this goes. He says that suicide is a result of radical honesty battle between mind and being, where the mind has won. I don't know how I feel about that that, but I can see where that might be the case sometimes. When I am observing without creating meaning, there is no desire to die because the weight of assessment is not present. It's like getting out of bed. Sometimes you just can't because there's all these radical honesty sitting on top. So prioritising wellness is just another way of saying prioritise experience. I can't really express how radical an idea this is for me. I don't understand the mechanism behind this, but perhaps from the age of eight onwards I have felt cramped. My body has felt crumpled in on itself, contorted, very rarely at ease. Right as I am typing this I notice my radical honesty are hunched in, my fingers ache from the odd way I am writing, my neck is bent. I am radical honesty but have forgotten to eat. It's this constant neglect that peters out each day, and takes conscious and concerted effort to attend to. I am getting better at it. It is learning to be selfish, to fully own the space you move about in, to make your arse as comfortable as you can. In some ways it is coming to see that you deserve to exist. I like the story about that voluptuous woman who came to him for therapy. She was very meek and smiley, and they found that this was an all radical honesty act because she thought that she had to be sweet for some belief she had. Radical honesty you can, listen to the audiobook version. The author reads it, occasionally stumbles, or giggles somewhat wickedly when he says something a radical honesty controversial. I don't think it would have had the same effect if I'd just read the book without his voice. He's very warm and it felt a little like having a therapy session. While I like his theory about how Western models of health focus on illness healing rather than prevention, and how lying to ourselves and others can increase destructive behaviours - particularly through socially sanctified poisons such as neglecting movement, not listening to your body, overeating or radical honesty things that feel bad, alcohol, cigarettes and other drugs - I disliked his judgement that obesity is a form of abuse. Perhaps for some it is, but it doesn't feel to be a particularly helpful evaluation, as it seems people can be classified as obese and still feel physically well. It's a minor point as it's not central to his book at all, but it was something I disagreed with. I think it is more useful to consider loving the body as it is, and focus on wellness rather than weight reduction. If weight reduction is a side-effect of that increased attention, great. He address this too: he says that a lot of his clients come to him just looking for more homework to do. They don't really get that the whole point is to give yourself a break, to have no more homework, to have no identity to keep defending and killing yourself for. It seems to me most of the bad reviews for this book are indignant about the actual work he suggests: telling the truth to loved ones, no matter how much it may hurt them. I have to agree with them - I don't think I'll be doing that anytime soon. I think in the context of relationships you actually want to preserve, or where there are unresolved issues, this could be very effective. I also think something that can be useful and that you can incorporate with a policy of total honestly and openness is the ability to just admit when you feel like shit. You don't have go around screaming it from the rooftops if you don't want to. Like I radical honesty moments sometimes where I am standing with a group of people and I will get an radical honesty fear response, and feel the desire to leave immediately. I don't know what to say, that's why I'm being quiet. Really, they might think I'm crazy and find me to be a downer. But so far the only thing that's happened from this honest admission of how shit I am feeling is support, maybe a hug, a smile. I don't say it for the reassurance, although that is nice. Then I can tell them that I appreciate them being so kind to me, and I hope I can do the same for them when they are feeling bad, and to speak up about how they're feeling if they can. I think that's all I have to say. I did really like this book, even though I don't know how practical it is. It's also not scientific at all, if that's what you were looking for. However, I really respect his ideas and I love the simplicity of living from the body and recognising evaluative thoughts as they arise. This book was like a sandwich with some really good meat between two very thick, very stale pieces of bread. I'll start with the good part. The author's main point was that it is psychologically more healthy to express to a person how that person is making you feel directly to the person's face at the time you are feeling it. As adults, we espec This book was like a sandwich with some really good meat between two very thick, very stale pieces of bread. I'll start with the good part. The author's main point was that it is psychologically more healthy to express to a person how that person is making you feel directly to the person's face at the time you are feeling it. As adults, we especially men have learned to repress our feelings, especially anger. But repressing radical honesty anger doesn't make it go away. It just makes you anxious and stressed out and resentful. Sometimes your anger may not be justified. This book says you should express it anyway. If it really is not justified, the person you are expressing it to will immediately point that out and by expressing it you just might learn the true reason why you're angry. The author advocates meditation and other methods of learning how to become more aware of how you are feeling when you are feeling it. Then you can become better at expressing how you are feeling -- not just anger, but also excitement, joy, gratitude -- the full range of human emotions. Expressing these kinds of emotions makes us act and feel human, instead of acting and feeling like a bunch of zombies just going through the motions of life. I also liked this author's description of the way that people are constantly and often mistakenly believing that things are now the way they were in the past. People hold on to beliefs based on the way things used to be rather than updating their way of thinking radical honesty on changed circumstances. Now for the stale part. Jacobs, and the way Jacobs described the philosophy, I thought this was about a guy who believed in telling the truth all the time, not only doing away with lies of commission but also lies of omission -- like if you read the person's mind it would be no different from what was actually coming out of the person's mouth. That would be radical indeed, but after reading this book I don't think that is what it is about. In medieval philosophy the radical humour was inherent in all animals and was believed to be necessary to the animal's vitality. So I actually don't think the author believes a person should be totally honest all the time. But there is certain stuff in our inner core that is vital and needs to be expressed. If we don't let it out and express it, we're killing ourselves. Okay, fair enough, but how exactly do you know what these things are. radical honesty I wouldn't personally respect someone who was constantly expressing everything they felt like a child. That person would seem totally puerile and self-indulgent. I think what the author was trying to say was that people have a lot of distracting thoughts constantly running through their heads, and they would benefit from learning to become more mindful of what is happening in the present, being fully present and trying to have intimate personal connections with other people in the present moment instead of constantly thinking about something else. I agree with this, but I've read others express these ideas much more clearly. The way these ideas are expressed in this book, it comes off as a total rejection of morality in favor of nihilism. In fact, in the postscript to this revised edition of the book, the author jokes. All of this is just idiotic in my opinion. I totally agree that many people have screwed up ideas about what they should be doing that are really not based on anything, and radical honesty ideas hold them back from doing what they actually want to be doing. I also think some people spend a lot of time thinking about what they should be doing radical honesty than actually doing it. I also think that many people expend a perfectly reasonable and respectable amount of time and energy doing what they should be doing, but still worry constantly that they are not doing enough, rather than being satisfied that they are doing what they can and enjoying their life. But if this author is advocating not thinking about what a person should be doing at all, I completely disagree. I think people find meaning in life and avoid existential depression by having a set of moral beliefs and then doing what they believe they should be doing according to those beliefs. Psychologists have an important role -- to help people change behaviors that are causing mental illness. But mental health in and of itself is not a philosophy of life, in my opinion. On this point, I think the author is completely full of shit. I am a lawyer, and I like my job. This is not futile; it is in fact happening. But in order to make it happen, my client needs help writing laws and regulations and radical honesty the laws in a way that is, yes, fair. Lawyers are the people upholding the rule of law. If you think you'd be better off living in a society where there is anarchy than in a society governed by the rule of law, you are completely deluding yourself. I speculate that this author, because of the way he chooses to live his life, has had a number of disputes involving lawyers over the years and has often come out on the losing end. Perhaps the author should take his own advice and express why he resents particular lawyers, instead of making huge, ridiculous generalizations about all lawyers. This book is poorly written. I think an editor could have greatly improved the presentation of the concepts. A lot of the time, the author just rambles or repeats himself. The book does not seem well-organized and the author goes off on long, uninteresting tangents. The bad parts of the book should have been edited out to make the book more concise. Overall, my impression of this book is that there are some insightful observations learned from many years as a psychoanalyst. But about 80% of this book is just new age, baby boomer, narcissistic bullshit. The author has been married five times and appears to believe that some great philosophical truth can be gleaned from becoming really good at playing golf. I guess it's to his credit that he's very open about the fact that he is trying to get rich and famous by peddling his cult-like philosophy that if it feels good it is good; but it doesn't change the fact that this is in fact what he appears to be doing. He appears to reject the scientific method, so he doesn't make any attempt to back up his belief system with any data. It's radical honesty just his own personal opinions. I like hanging out with people who are honest and present and share intimate thoughts. I just don't think this is all there is to life. I hate this guy, his writing and his shitty ideas about how to relate to others. Married couples should go in to detail about other people they have fantasized about or I radical honesty this guy, his writing and his shitty ideas about how to relate to others. Married couples should go in to detail about other people they have fantasized about or had sex with and how great it was and on and on. Daughters should sit down with there fathers and give detailed descriptions of the glory hole gang bang they participated in at serority, etc. It's presented as a one size fits alluniversal remedy for strengthening relationships and liberating one self. That is the central message of this searing text. We think we lie in order to 'save' other people, but in reality, we lie in order to save our false and constructed selves. We lie so consistently, that it becomes a way of life for this false self. The author suggests that radical honesty is the way to disengage from the stranglehold of this false self, that it is the first step towards defeating the constant self-censorship that ruins our happiness. It's hard to argue wit Lying is a soul-killer. That is the central message of this searing text. We think we lie in order to 'save' other people, but in reality, we lie in order to save our false and constructed selves. We lie so consistently, that it becomes a way of life for this false self. The author suggests that radical honesty is the way to disengage from the stranglehold of this false self, that it is the first step towards defeating radical honesty constant self-censorship that ruins our happiness. It's hard to argue with the basic premise of this argument, though of course, the practicality of this way of life is radical honesty to each reader to judge. What is undeniable radical honesty that a strong and cogent argument has been made for more honesty and not for less ; very recommended. It asks radical honesty to be honest Radically honest as the title suggests, if you have sexual fantasies just say what you are thinking, if you are angry just let it rip with all the cussing and being loud that wants to come from you with no thought of tact or restriction, it asks you to not worry about what other people think and that you can never know what is the right thing to do so its best to just be honest at-least this way your mind will be free. If you decide to go down this road you should know that things are going to get worse before they get better. I tried the first level of honesty described in this book and I did not like what happened so I don't know I guess I am not brave enough to let go of morality just yet but slowly I might get there because I do see the value in this I have seen how my relationships in the past have improved when I have done what were suggested in this book. I think it has a good premise. Telling the truth will set you free after all but the tactics seem a bit harsh. Spending 10 straight days telling your loved ones all the things you resent about them seems like it could cause some pretty intense resentment. It does, however, have some similarities to A New Earth in that it asks you to be completely aware, especially of how certain emotions make radical honesty feel physically which has been very powerful radical honesty me. I think it has a good premise. Telling the truth will set you free after all but the tactics seem a bit harsh. Spending 10 straight days telling your loved ones all the things you resent about them seems like it could cause some pretty intense resentment. It does, however, have some similarities to A New Earth in that it asks you to be completely aware, especially of how certain emotions make you feel physically which has been very powerful for me. I think this book might be very helpful for someone who is keeping secrets and therefore making themselves sick. It seems like he helps people that lead very high stress lives with secretive and often dysfunctional relationships. This book could use some editing, but it's a radical honesty read. In American culture, social games and lies are not only encouraged but expected. Uncomfortable truths are buried, and tellers of uncomfortable truths are ostracized. In American culture, social games and lies are not only encouraged but expected. Uncomfortable truths are buried, and tellers of uncomfortable truths are ostracized. Men and women create and magnify stress and suffering for themselves and others by practicing deceit, even deceit which would widely be regarded as polite or socially appropriate. In their desire to please themselves and others, people lie. Much, if not all, of my own suffering has been the result of lies - of commission or omission - told to myself by myself, told to me by others, or told about me by others. And what happens on the micro level, of course, affects what happens on the macro level. We are suffering because of our individual and collective refusal to think and speak honestly. Not sure I go along with that. But I definitely appreciate the radical honesty in this book about the deep value of straight dealing, even when it's uncomfortable or ugly or seemingly unkind. It's an radical honesty neglected piece of the integrity puzzle, and I agree with the author that the truth is ultimately the kindest thing you can tell someone. I think the author also does a good job pointing o Very American concept, I think, this notion that it makes sense to say everything you're thinking, basically. Not sure I go along with that. But I definitely appreciate the revelations in this book about the deep value of straight dealing, even when it's uncomfortable or ugly or seemingly unkind. It's an often neglected piece of the integrity puzzle, and I agree with the author that the truth is ultimately the kindest thing you can tell someone. The writing itself is sometimes stream-of-consciousness style, so if you don't like that it might be tough to get through. But if you're interested in really thinking about what the truth is, in what ways it is valuable, and how the hiding dishonesty all around us is making things suck, read this. Well, what can I say. Basically you can't cnage anythign so just be brutally honest. I just felt like the book was a strong attack against certain morals. Basically you can't cnage anythign so just be brutally honest. I just felt radical honesty the book was a strong attack against certain morals. The problem Brad Blanton has with the Christian religion amongst other institutions for moralism is justified to a large degree. However, moral absolutes can exist under a banner of love and grace rather than legalism and facade. Not only the obvious how to guide on telling the truth, radical honesty also great advise on expressing emotions, obstacles like moralism and a comprehensive model for truth. If applied this book could certainly have dramatic effects on ones own life as well as others. Particularly I enjoyed the authors take on enlightenment phrasing it like the attempt to return to a state experienced by a fetus in a mother's womb. The three levels of telling the truth: radical honesty. If applied this book could certainly have dramatic effects on ones own life as well as others. Particularly I enjoyed the authors take on enlightenment phrasing it like the attempt to return to a state experienced by a fetus in a mother's womb. The three levels of telling the truth: 1. Being a jerk and speaking your anger immediately and in all situations is not always the answer, in my opinion. He rubbed me the wrong way. Loved it, even though the book is not perfect. But then again, why should it be. I'll probably make a longer summary another time but one thing is sure : I really love the concept. This book is about noticing how we internalized some rules, some ways of living lying, withholding. In the end we are all neurotics at different degrees. Radical honesty is not about becoming a cocky blunt cunt that Loved it, even though the book is not perfect. But then again, why should it be. I'll probably make a longer summary another time but one thing is sure : I really love the concept. This book is about noticing how we internalized some rules, some ways of living lying, withholding. In the end we are all neurotics at different degrees. Radical honesty is not about becoming a cocky blunt cunt that tells everything that comes up in his mind. Instead, it's mindfulness at it's finest. It's noticing what we think, how we feel, what happens, and realize there's no right or wrong per se. Feel your feelings and be open with people. Becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable. I'm sure Brad Blanton wrote this laughing out loud at himself. But the moral is so true : what's the radical honesty anyway. The more I read great philosophers and thinkers Alan Watts, Nietzsche, Marcus Aurelius, Milan Kundera. And when you realize that, it can be difficult to grasp, because the human mind is made for making sense of things, have a sense of control, find meaning and order, and feels insecure when it can't. But you can actually find incredible peace and joy radical honesty living once you let go of the minds tendency to look for making sense of the world, and once you embrace the insecurity of being radical honesty living. And my philosophy radical honesty : there's no point to life, so we can make anything we want out of it, and in the end, it won't matter at all anyway, because you might as well have done anything else, you'd haved lived anyway. This is a profound book with a revelatory thesis--a must-read for one and all. Although, my recommendation will not go un-prefaced. Even in the guest-written introduction to the second edition, writes that she doesn't condone Blanton's dirty language and doesn't agree with much of what he says. So keep those things in mind, plus a few others. Much of his writing is rather amusing. I particularly did not e This is a profound book with a revelatory thesis--a must-read for one and all. Although, my recommendation will not go un-prefaced. Even in the guest-written introduction to the second edition, writes that she doesn't condone Blanton's dirty language and doesn't agree with much of what he says. So keep those things in mind, plus a few others. Much of his writing is rather amusing. I particularly did not enjoy reading his stuff about futilitarianism, at the very end of the book. Feel free to skip that section. But it is, as Blanton points out, necessary for truly living and not just coping. This is not to say that I have in any way mastered radical honesty or even strive to enact it radical honesty a daily basis. I think you have to meld radical honesty with common sense. Just because you don't like someone's new haircut doesn't mean you need to radical honesty them--particularly when unsolicited. Telling them would not be being radically honest, just hurtful. But being honest about the things that matter, radical honesty the people that matter, can really clear the air and get you back to ground floor, when you were just two people without a labyrinth of garbage built between you. Full disclosure; my boyfriend has been reading this book, we have been arguing about it, so I'm reading it with a fine comb radical honesty and no little exasperation - to fuel my rebuttals. And I'm not done yet. And I agree with everything in the first part so far. The thing is, we hubby and I are bloody honest. He's Dutch check out their reputation for bluntness. I was brought us by a messed-up radical honesty and rebuilt myself with therapy, patienc Full disclosure; my boyfriend has been reading this book, we radical honesty been arguing about it, so I'm reading it with a fine comb - and no little exasperation - to fuel my rebuttals. And I'm not done yet. And I agree with everything in the first part so far. The thing is, we hubby and I are bloody honest. He's Dutch check out their reputation for bluntness. We are at a level of shared honesty I've hardly ever witnessed. We use all the psychological tools we have in order to understand and navigate our differences, we hardly ever 'fight' - we try to argue constructively. My therapist was a fan of keeping a 'secret garden' in relationships in order to cultivate attraction - full knowledge of, and melding with, the significant other tends to kill desire. Maybe because my socialization as a girl brainwashed me, maybe because I am 'too sensitive' bla bla bla. I believe in honesty up to a point. Shaming people into telling the truth is annoying. It turns into a pissing contest. Also I live in Asia. My local friends' hair would probably collectively stand on their heads by just reading the intro. We strive for harmony here, not harshness, and it works for me. Super interesting book going deep into the benefits of direct, honest communication and the limitations you are causing yourself and your loved ones by not telling the truth. It really dives deep into the human nature of our communication with others and how by withholding the truth or parts of it we can cause massive stress in our lives. As we grow up we lose the courage of being fully honest. And the fact is that we rarely ask directly for what we want, we're not honest and eventually this tur Super interesting book going deep into the benefits of direct, honest communication and the limitations you are causing yourself and your loved ones by not telling the truth. It really dives deep into the human nature of our communication with others and how by withholding the truth or parts of it we can cause massive stress in our lives. As we grow up we lose the courage of being fully honest. And the fact is that we rarely ask directly for what we want, we're not honest and eventually this turns into a nightmare where we can't remember what we said to who or radical honesty said what. The big idea of the book is that happiness can be achieved through cultivating honesty regardless of how hard or easy the situation is. And this definitely sounds a lot easier than it is. Telling the truth is much more rare than you think. If it was easy everyone would be doing it and we know that truth is a rare commodity in human relationships. This book is a classic everyone should read. If you don't resonate with it as strongly at first don't worry, you'll still discover a very fresh view of the world and a few valuable lessons. Not inaccurate in every respect but shallow and annoyingly unable to see the other side i. Not inaccurate in every respect but shallow and annoyingly unable to see the other side i. He doesn't examine what lies behind any of his petty surface desires. Will you finally be good enough in your own eyes. His longest relationship happened when he was 39 and married a 19-year-old. Would really like someone who has had a wonderful fifty-year-marriage to write a book about good communication. Radical honesty was an interesting read with an unusual writing style. I wasn't a big fan of the narration, I bought the audio book. It was done by the author and although his voice is clear and easy to understand, his skill in reading a book out loud is lacking. He would have sold more copies I think if he hired good talent to read the book. Having said thatI found his use of profanity forgivable and at times entertaining, as he used it to be radically honest. I would advocate using some of the princip This was an interesting read with an unusual writing style. I wasn't a big fan of the narration, I bought the audio book. It was done by the author and although his voice is clear and easy to understand, his skill in reading a book out loud is lacking. He would have sold more copies I think radical honesty he hired good talent to read the book. Having said thatI found his use of profanity forgivable and at times entertaining, as he used it to be radically honest. I would advocate using some of the principals in this book but I would balk at some others as I think they would cause more problems than they solve. Entertaining and worth a read if not a listen. This book is a fun mix of little nuggets of wisdom gold and shaking my head at how narcissistic the author is. Honestly though, I aspire to the level of narcissism needed to write a book telling people what to do. All in all, I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who enjoys human behavior or wants to radical honesty their relationships. Deadness is a low-intensity form of suffering. It is the result of staying on guard against imagined greater dangers. The greater dangers we imagine are based on memories of how we have been hurt before Therapy is over when a person stops incessantly demanding radical honesty other people be different from what they are, forgives his or her parents and other begrudged former intimates, reclaims the power to make life work, and takes responsibility for doing so. Stress is not a characteristic of life or times Deadness is a low-intensity form of suffering. It is the result of staying on guard against imagined greater radical honesty. The greater dangers we imagine are based on memories of how we have been hurt before Therapy is over when a person stops incessantly demanding that other people be different from what they are, forgives his or her parents and other begrudged former intimates, reclaims the power to make life work, and takes responsibility for doing so. Stress is not a characteristic of life or times, but of people. Stress does not come from the environment, it comes from the mind of the individual under stress Telling the truth frees us from entrapment in the mind. Elephant shit is any discussion of Gestalt theory. Bullshit is any abstraction from experience your mind makes and assigns value to. Bullshit is a sales pitch for an interpretation of reality that comes with any interpretation of reality. All interpretations of reality are bullshit. Freedom is not being dominated by your own bullshit What kills us is intense attachment to our interpretations and failure to distinguish these interpretations from sensate reality The stress that kills or cripples most of the population comes from people being too hard on themselves when they don't live up to their own imaginings about how other people think they should behave. We don't know who we are, and we try to guess who we ought to be in order to do the right thing and be happy. We get lost in the process and beat the hell out of ourselves before we even know we're hurt. It does no good whatsoever simply to change what we imagine others expect of us. We need to recover the ability to pay attention to something other than the whirlpool of questions and doubts about what is required or expected for acceptance. To grow beyond adolescence, people have to let go of, rather than tighten their grip on, the principles and standards with which they define themselves. This is usually very scary, like falling backward into the unknown. This book is for that group of people that is growing larger every day—-those whose thirst for knowledge and willingness to share overrides their defense against embarrassment. But telling the truth kills nothing but false roles, images, interpretations, and lies. Intimacy is a power grown into after adolescence. The person capable of intimacy—that is, the person capable of telling the truth—still has roles to play, but is no longer trapped by them I recommend that people tell radical honesty truth because all stress is caused by lying. Telling the truth creates clearings between yourself and other people where there is a possibility of sharing in creating together. But the appearance of a successful life is to a successful life as the menu is to a meal. The appearance of success is a performance in which you are cut off from contact with the audience except through your radical honesty When you get what you said you wanted by manipulation, it is never enough. When you tell the truth and get what you want, getting what you want is like gravy—it feels like you are getting more than you ever hoped for, rather than just okay but not quite good enough. Honesty, however, is a behavior and is something I can choose or not choose. I cannot decide to love or trust, but I can decide to be personally honest or not. And when I choose to be really honest and say what I experience and what I feel, I am showing that I can be trusted. This honest relating is not always joyful or pleasant —it is sometimes sad, sometimes angry, etc. When you admit your act you also admit your ignorance. You confess that you developed your act in order not to appear lost and in hopes of finding your way by faking it. Then you admit that you are lost and faking it most of the time these days as well, not just in the far-removed past. Before you acted smart; now you acknowledge ignorance like it is gold. Level three involves vigilance against being taken over by the mind Still, it's clear that the revelations at each level of telling the truth allow for greater sharing of who a radical honesty is and what they are about. When we reveal more, we have less to hide. When we have less to hide, we are less worried about being found out. When we are less worried about being found out, we can pay better attention to someone else. In this way, telling the truth makes intimacy and freedom possible. When this occurs, we gain the power to use our minds as tools rather than as machines for the defense of who we think we ought to have other people think we are. Who you were before this second is already dead. Who you are is merely who you are now, memory included. When you tell the truth, you are free simply by virtue of describing what is so. This descriptive language evokes a feeling of affirmation, a willingness to be, an appreciation for being alive in the world as it is. An honest person is free by virtue of not being lost in her own mind. An honest person is a being within whom the ongoing flow of experience occurs, and who has a mind full of guiding abstractions, but for whom neither circumstance nor principles dictate action. Action that is clearly intentional occurs, but results from consciousness of circumstance, of principles, and of consciousness itself. Being descriptive of one's own feelings in so precise a way as to evoke feeling in another is the heart of the creative power of poetry and of honest. What is normal is to be concerned foremost with having a good cover story. Normal people are concerned with figuring out radical honesty right thing to say that puts them in the best light. They want to live up to their own best guess about what the people they are talking to want to hear. That paradoxical state—comfortable uncertainty—is a prerequisite for a creative, fulfilling life. Growing and sharing, rather than stagnation, occur in a context of uncertainty Just as we fear the consequences of expressing anger or sexual feelings, we fear the consequences of giving and receiving love. God forbid we should get too happy. If we let ourselves bubble over, we fear that we just might bubble away. We are afraid that if we let ourselves love freely, we'll be opening ourselves up for tremendous hurt. Neurosis is essentially a refusal to accept what is happening in the present. Neurosis involves denying the truth about any form of excitement, here and now. A neurotic is a person who incessantly demands that life be other than it is. Getting fat allows people who are uncomfortable about their own sexual excitement to be emotionally intimate with members of the opposite sex while remaining physically isolated from them. In this way, they remain safe from their own sexuality. When we communicate our resentment to the person we resent, the anger dissipates more completely in the moment of expression. Everyone who experiments with telling the truth about anger at least finds out that people don't die if you tell them you resent them for something they said or did. In fact, more often than not, when people tell the truth about their feelings, relationships get better, even if radical honesty truth is about hatred. At times, being honest about your anger is the only way you have of sharing who you are. Love is sharing what you have, even if you're having a fit. Telling the truth is loving your neighbor. All these explanations sound forgiving and noble, which they would be if they were experiences rather than ideas. The problem is not that these ideas are inaccurate or wrong. The problem is that ideas about forgiveness are not forgiveness. Forgiving someone with whom you are angry—actually experiencing forgiving him—only happens after you tell him what he did or said that you resent. Only when you allow yourself to experience and express anger openly will it disappear. Thinking and deciding what to do about the person only serves to suppress the anger. We human beings are all selfish and unfair and it's worse than useless to pretend we aren't. radical honesty Our decision not to express our resentment is based on a deeply held belief that our anger has to be justified, righteous, and legitimate. To be free of anger, we have to give up this belief and allow our resentments and other people's resentments to be expressed even if they are completely irrational. Repressed anger blocks the flow of love and creativity that we once experienced around them, and generates a flurry of thoughts for us to get caught up in. The more we are caught up in our thoughts, the less present we are to the other person and to. The rightness or wrongness of what she said or did is irrelevant. We are all more petty and selfish than we are willing to admit. When we are willing to admit our petty anger, we get over it faster and we have less of it in the future. The process of forgiveness involves the following six minimal requirements, none of which may be skipped. You have to tell the truth about what specific behav ior you resent, to the person, face-to-face; 2. You have to be verbally and vocally unrestrained with regard to volume and propriety; 3. You have to pay attention to the feelings and sensations in your body and to the other person as you speak; 4. You have to express any appreciations for the person that come up in the process, with the same attention to your feelings and to the other person as when you are expressing resentments; 5. You have to stay with any feelings that emerge in the process, like tears or laughter, regardless of any evaluations you may have about how it makes you look; 6. You have to stay with the discussion until you no longer feel resentful of the other person. Admit your cowardice—your unwillingness to tell the truth if anything that you judge to be significant is at stake. You lie like hell when you are scared, and you are scared whenever you are angry. Love is when you let someone be the way she is. When you let up on your judgements of someone, there is a free space in which forgiveness and love occur. When you resent someone for what he didn't do—that is, violating your expectations—look back to what he said or did to create that expectation. Express your resentment to him for what he said or did. Lousy as it may seem, you are the only one who is responsible for all of your expectations, disappointment, and anger. This may sound ridiculous and unfair. Clearly your spouse is not at fault and is being blamed. But note this: the unfair blaming is being done out loud. It is in the public domain where it can get cleared up, not in your secretive mind. People outside of you can be depended on to fight back and take care of themselves. You can depend on it. You don't need to protect your spouse from your irrationality. You will get set straight in a minute. What you put out there relieves you. What you withhold will kill you. People are scared of feeling anger, but they are terrified of experiencing love. It's no wonder that when an authentic exchange occurs, the next time the two people meet, they will talk about anything but their real feelings. When the truth changes from your speaking, you know you've spoken the truth. Anger is never permanently handled. If it isn't stockpiled, you have handled it the best it can be. Anything less than full disclosure is withholding of the kind that creates alienation. I frequently prescribe the exercise, included in the previous list, of masturbating to orgasm in front of each other with no assistance from each other. This exercise is useful in several ways. Not only do people get a chance to demonstrate being pleased sexually and how they do it for themselves, they also demonstrate, for the benefit of their partner, their capability to please themselves without help. That relieves a sense of obligation for taking care of each other sexually and opens up an area of permission to play. As in other areas of life, when people don't feel like they have to perform, they are free to perform. It is not the way they look or how good they talk that makes us love who we love. Their ability to be with us is more powerful. Nostalgia, a mixture of love and hate for a memory, is easier for cowards than reality. Beings do a better job of loving each other than minds. If intimacy doesn't extend to friends and extended family, the network of support is too thin. If you have even one good friend to both people, to whom both can talk and who supports both in telling the truth, you have a great resource. You are not obligated to make or keep me happy or to do what I want, I am responsible for my own happiness. If I get mad at you, I will handle it, and I'll get over it. If I get disappointed, I'll be responsible for my own disappointment. Here is what I want, but you don't have to provide it for me. You are invited and requested, but not obligated, to take care of me. Alcoholism cuts across all radical honesty, because the self-torture of moralism cuts across all classes. One of the reasons the temporary relief of being drunk gets to be so precious is that getting drunk knocks one's conscience in the head. For a while the goddamned moralist within shuts up. That is wonderful for a little while, but when you sober up the moralist within works overtime. Well-being has to be continually relearned and reexperienced through a redirection of attention away from the preconceptions of the mind and toward the experiences of excitement in the body. Once well-being as a continual process of noticing and rediscovery has been learned, the way a person spends time and what he or she does in his or her life changes noticeably. The source of personal power is the ability to interrupt your own mind. And since having things to hide keeps you in your racing mind and keeps it racing, you have to reveal what you have hidden. Learning to take care of ourselves creatively rather than resentfully is a big step in growing up. When we take such good care of ourselves that we have all we need, the overflow to generosity with others is possible. Prior to that, nurturing relationships between or among adults are not possible. Prior to that, all gifts are bribes—everything has a string attached. The primary, fundamental, essential, baseline, critical, lowest-level minimum requirement for happiness, without which there is no other hope, is a willingness to take care of oneself. One particularly effective way to do this is to tell the truth about all your attempts to manipulate others to get what you want. Until you can laugh about this, you aren't free from being manipulated by your own manipulations. It is only through telling the truth about all these hidden agendas for getting what you want that the real work of growing begins. But even radical interventions by the best of therapists are powerless unless there is a commitment by a whole and undivided being to change. All of the information in the world radical honesty of no value, and all research is irrelevant, until placed in the context of the power of intention. The abysmal truth is that everything comes to nothing. Whatever you don't have is only important to you because you don't have it. Something you want is very important to you until you get it, and then it's nothing after a while. This movement from anticipation to accomplishment to disillusionment is inevitable Students have trouble writing, after all, because they have trouble reading; they have trouble reading because they don't hear; and they don't hear because they don't take time to listen. Learning how to lie and to withhold is a necessary developmental stage, crucial to getting on in life and getting around in the world. We learn to condense experience, and we then all, individually, experience the problem of reductionism. Lying is a result of reductionism—the condensation of memory and the categorization of experience we naturally learn while growing up. When we start thinking with categories, we exclude a lot of experience; yet, we need the efficiency of thinking with categories. We hunger for simple contact with people and everyday experience. After being sufficiently lost in the nest of categories, we never meet anyone new. We only meet representatives of people we used to know. You let it come and go. Then there is a new opening for new love. Otherwise the space for love no longer exists, being occupied with ashes and bullshit. This experience of freedom is no big accomplishment at all to non-minded beings. They don't have consciousness of freedom because they have nothing to measure it by, no unfreedom to compare it with, no ideals or images of perfect dogdom to hamper them. We are against politeness as a substitute for the truth because that politeness kills. Politeness and diplomacy are responsible for more suffering and death than all the crimes of passion in history. Resistance to limiting the future by commitment —to one project to the exclusion of others, or to one person to the exclusion of others—is the sickness of our time We are all moralists. The more moralistic we are, the more hysterical we are. The more hysterical we radical honesty, the further away from experience we wish to be. Being right is not the most important thing in life. If it was, you might as well kill yourself. Being willing is what counts. If we are willing, we are fools, as any good mind will tell you. Fools rush in and learn all kinds of things angels will never know. When I am describing to another person how things are, I am always describing how things are for me at the moment, or I am not telling the truth. We have all been waiting for a long time to grow beyond both these positive and negative self-images, and afraid to do so. Most of us never make it beyond adolescent hope and hype and disappointment. Wishing is a way to remove oneself from what is going on now. Hope is how most of us avoid growing. This review is about keeping secrets, and whether radical honesty is necessary or harmful. Not always in that order, though I put others last on purpose, because we never know others as well as ourselves, and our help is often unwelcome or gets This review is about keeping secrets, and whether it is necessary or harmful. Not always in that order, though I put others last on purpose, because we never know others as well as ourselves, and our help is often unwelcome or gets in the way. I wish I were better at acting out of that realization. First of all, radical honesty is no right thing. I resolved to be as open as I could about myself and what I was doing, at all times and with all people. Firstly, this radical honesty because little is inherently shameful. radical honesty Telling the full truth about myself all the time was to be a way of keeping myself accountable for what I did. My practice of openness also included avoiding false modesty and, eventually, not withholding praise or compliments if you feel inspired to give them. One crucial difference is that, rather than seeing honesty as a way of keeping ourselves true to our principles, Blanton thinks our principles are a major cause of dishonesty. I feel uneasy about that sometimes, but I also have serious doubts about whether radical honesty is right for me or anyone else. Your secrets will kill you, Blanton argues, because the stress of keeping them and possibly the alienation that comes with being unable to reveal yourself and relate directly and presently to others will exhaust you and lead you to commit slow suicide through bad habits like drinking too much, overeating, and so on. Blanton applies a similar practice in his writing, offering candid insights into his own experiences and motivations in being radically honest as a person and as a therapist, including his grandiose hopes for the radical honesty project and his reputation. This is an intentionally unsophisticated book. The style is conversational, accessible, and irreverent, which sometimes comes off as a lack of discipline. One quirk is the inclusion of long passages taken from other authors. Many people will find reading it challenging and intensely uncomfortable. It could be a painful reminder of how distant you have become from others and from yourself by hiding your truth. I had serious social obligations only to my parents, and even those, at the time, I took less seriously than the task of forming my own standards through low-stakes radical honesty with authority and received ideas. As I got older, I found this more difficult, because of what some call karma: you get entangled with situations and people, and it imprisons you. It drove me into therapy, radical honesty I felt no one in my life had so little a stake in radical honesty I did that I could talk to them openly. Some of the things that drove me ever deeper into silence about aspects of my thoughts, my behaviour, and my suffering not special; we all suffer, and it is one radical honesty the best bases for universal human solidarity were merely specific entanglements, many of which eventually ended. Establishing that your interests diverge, that you are guilty of some moral failing or that you merely hold some intolerably different values, they may reject you as a friend or lover, leaving you wondering why you exposed yourself and your vulnerability to them. Sometimes, there is dishonesty in our demand for honesty. Perhaps it was ever thus, but people these days can be shockingly moralistic. I might have been naïve to think, as a teenager, that humanity generally was on a path to becoming more tolerant of human difference and fallibility, and to allowing more space for radical honesty to be openly who they are, with all their particular brokenness. The twenty-first century has dashed such hopes. But honesty ceases to be therapeutic in a powerful authoritarian regime: one does not choose between slow suicide and release into health, but between slow suicide and quick suicide. But Blanton never indicates that practicing honesty is risk-free. In fact, he encourages us to own up to our cowardice in not wanting to share the truth about ourselves when we stand to lose something by it. Many of us are quite happy to tell the truth so long as it risks nothing, Blanton says, and this prevents us from relating to radical honesty as living and responsive beings, rather than as our fixed ideas about them, which is to say as a type of inanimate object. Sartre thinks we are responsible to ourselves and all mankind radical honesty all our choices, including the choice to act with cowardice: man is condemned to be free. Condemned, because he did not create himself, yet is nevertheless at liberty, and from the moment that he is thrown into this world he is radical honesty for everything he does. But whatever our excuse, if we do something blameworthy, we are still really to blame: our coin flip or dice roll, our submission, inaction, reliance on the judgment of others, or lack of effort to rise above our circumstances, radical honesty entirely within our control. Dishonesty is one of the main forms of this evasion, and though it sometimes manifests as outright lying, it appears more often as incomplete disclosure, especially in the name of politeness or care for others. The cowardice in honesty Paradoxically, though, honesty can also be evasive. My greater interest in concealment, from 2011 onward, lay partly in realizing that we radical honesty want to confess something we feel guilty about mainly to relieve ourselves of the burden of carrying a secret or being unforgiven. When we have chosen to do something radical honesty we believe would hurt others, especially if it would hurt them only if they knew about it, confessing in this way is also a failure to take responsibility. Asking someone we have hurt to absolve us, or confessing with the expectation we will be forgiven, is itself an act of radical honesty. Just as no parent tells a child the whole truth, radical honesty we should accept the ongoing need to edit our full reality. But by challenging you in radical honesty way, it could change your life and your conception of radical honesty, even if at first the prospects look dismal. I read this book in preparation for a part in a roleplay game. There was an interesting mix of Zen Buddhism, existentialist theory and Platonic idealism in there, that was regurgitated into a theory of radical honesty. That sounds more demeaning than I mean it to be. I love it when people take philosophical theories and find a way to apply them to their own life and tho I read this book in preparation for a part in a roleplay game. There was an interesting mix of Zen Buddhism, existentialist theory and Platonic idealism in there, that was regurgitated into a theory of radical honesty. That sounds more demeaning than I mean it to be. I love it when people take philosophical theories and find a way to apply them to their own life and thought. The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck, radical honesty instance, was a great contemporary reworking of stoicism with a lot more swearing. The general gist of the book seems to be this. People extrapolate their very limited experiences into truths that they then carry with them for the rest of their lives. They never tell those truths because they want to confirm to what they think are society's standards. Because of their tactful silence, they never find out that there is no one truth, only personal, fleeting experiences. Radical Honesty then becomes a stringent way to banish certainty, by showcasing your own limited experiences in a cathartic stream of consciousness. This leads to an authentic life without many of life's anxieties. Some people will hate you, of course, but at least they'll hate you for the right reasons. There is both real merit and beautiful kind of romanticism around an honest, authentic life. I quite value authenticity and people being open about their lives. Stigma's around mental health, pregnancy and sexuality hurt people and can only be dealt with by people being brave enough to communicate honestly and openly. But then the book reaches a bunch of conclusions I do not care radical honesty. The amount of honesty required is indeed quite radical. If you are angry, yell at the person you are angry at, and say everything you feel at that moment. Not because it's the truth, but because it's what you feel and keeping it in will only breed resentment that will bite you in the ass later. Being honest requires mentioning every detail, even if or especially if it'll hurt people you love. That level of spouting radical honesty own bullshit at people just seems selfish, and unproductive. I don't want to use other people as a tool to expel my own bullshit to. There should be better ways of reaching a state of not clinging to your own thoughts and opinions say, you know, Buddhism, or mindfulnessways that don't make you be a huge dick to everyone you know. That said, I tried being Radically Honesty for a weekend, in the safety of a roleplay game. And I found it very refreshing. Committing to being honest means constantly being present with your own thoughts and feelings. Expressing them feelings as soon as they solidify radical honesty you never bottle up any emotion. Rejections and judgement don't feel as oppressive, because you haven't had time to get attached to this feeling or thought. I did feel light, and I did feel authentic. So, even though I can't say that I'm ready to embrace radical honesty, it did inspire me to be more sincere. That seems like a win. Está na hora de ser Honesto falar a verdade sempre. E parar de ser o que a sociedade acha que devemos ser. Se você acha que isso é bom. Ficar mentindo pra si mesmo e para quem você realmente é durante anos. Então meu caro, considere ler esse livro. O Está na hora de ser Honesto falar a verdade sempre. E parar de ser o que a sociedade acha que devemos ser. Se você acha que isso é bom. Ficar mentindo pra si mesmo e para quem você realmente é durante anos. Então meu caro, considere ler esse livro. Obviamente eu não concordo com tudo que o autor falou e escreveu nele. Aliás só pra informar ele tem um ar de babaca e a tonalidade de voz dele parece a de um pervertido. Mas tirando isso o que realmente importante e o que eu admiro em Brad é ele praticar o que ele prega expressando da forma brutal que é o conteúdo desse livro. Ele é do tipo: Pode te ofender. Se quer se salvar escute o que eu tenho pra falar. Mas afinal o que é ser honesto. O radical honesty é praticar dizer a verdade de forma relaxada mesmo que possa machucar e recentir as pessoas mais próximas. O que é acabar com a podridão da mentira. O que é proteger pessoas queridas contando a verdade do que você sente, pensa, e age sem dar muita importância. No seu sentido mais literal possível. Vou tentar traduzir dois de alguns dos grandes conceitos importantes que aprendi nesse livro na minha linguagem. Eles radical honesty no livro de forma mais clara: 1. A atitude de ser quem você realmente é sem mentiras. Isso quer dizer Parar de guardar lixo para você radical honesty intenção de agradar os outros. Radical honesty tudo isso que te impede de ser sua versão mais autêntica pro inferno. E seja primeiramente brutalmente honesto com você mesmo e comece a agir de acordo com suas versão real, única, e a versão de pessoa que você se vê e imagina ser com escolhas, vontade própria e responsabilidade pelas próprias açőes. Sem sensura do que dizer para amigos, colegas de trabalho seu chefenamorado aradical honesty. Se seu chefe é um cuzão com você. Se seu amigo fez merda e veio chorar para você perdoar ele, Fale que ele fez merda mesmo, que ele tem que aguentar o tranco e ser responsável e só volte a falar com ele depois que a merda parar de feder e for resolvida. E se você é o culpado, assuma a culpa e diga a verdade. Não ache que você tem que agradar as pessoas guardando o que você realmente sente por elas, ou o que você faz ou pensa sobre elas, mesmo que possa não agradar essas pessoas ou que você corra o risco de ficar vulnerável sim, mesmo que a história envolva traição, enganação, e coisas que possam decepcionar se revelado. A intenção disso é causar um alívio do seu ser, e proteger aqueles que você ama da mentira. Considere isso: 1 Isso tirará qualquer dúvida que eles tenham sobre você. E é uma oportunidade de crescimento sem decepção e sem enganação. Criando assim relacionamentos autênticos e respeito mútuo. E isso é só um parte minúscula do que você pode aprender com esse livro. Espero que tenha te dado uma expectativa legal do que vai encontrar se lelo, se ser mais honesto é o que você está procurando Como ser honesto em um mundo que só prega mentiras pode ser uma atitude revolucionária. Isso pode ser algo bem radical. Honestidade deve ser tratada como um músculo, e para fortalece lo, ele deve ser desenvolvido durante o tempo. E Para isso o livro sugere alguns exercícios e explicaçőes da ajuda de terapia e psicoterapia que é bem válido que pode alavancar mais seu desenvolvimento, bem como iniciar grupos sobre honestidade, exercícios práticos e informação aplicável para o desenvolvimento do ser honesto e muito mais sobre o tema que o autor explica com muito mais expertise. Logicamente muitas sugestőes e informaçőes são bem controversas, não científicas, e a linguagem pode sim ofender o leitor. Sendo isso o motivo de eu não dar 5 estrelas. E ser honesto não é uma questão de somente ser radical honesty você é, mas também uma questão de qualidade de vida. Afinal o autor aponta e levanta dados de motivos de suicídios serem relacionados ao aprisionamento do real ser particular de cada um e 55% das mortes relacionadas a escolhas próprias de pessoas presas a esse sistema. Brad Blanton você é um filho da puta mas eu gostei de você cara. Esse é um livro que realmente ajuda a ser quem podemos ser, alcançando nosso potencial de forma mais prazerosa e interessante, conquistar uma vida sem mentiras, podendo mandar a real sempre e sem se sentir culpado e sem recentemento por pessoas que não temos a obrigação de agradar além de nós mesmos. Até em breve com mais um Review!.
Introduction to Radical Honesty
It's like getting out of bed. Some of these are worthwhile, such as the excerpt from The Grapes of Wrath about an encounter with a self-pitying man who walks around with an exposed and weeping eye socket. I don't know how I feel about that that, but I can see where that might be the case sometimes. The problem Brad Blanton has with the Christian religion amongst other institutions for moralism is justified to a large degree. Sometimes you just can't because there's all these layers sitting on top. It feels as though you are using people - it's not a good feeling. In being simply yourself, you start attracting what you truly desire. I had serious social obligations only to my parents, and even those, at the time, I took less seriously than the task of forming my own standards through low-stakes confrontation with authority and received ideas.
